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Original sounds from the online self-help group

Here you will find statements from participants in the online self-help groups on topics that we encounter in everyday life.

“You must be sacrificing a lot?!”

    As a mother you don't sacrifice yourself. We do what we do voluntarily, because we care about it, because we love our family. At a superficial glance, there is no balance between giving and taking. We don't always get back what we gave. But in the long run, good things always pay off.


    The word “sacrifice” makes us victims. And we are not. We always have our lives in our own hands, at all times. When we help our men, give up things and sometimes go beyond our limits. If we do this out of love, “sacrificing” voluntarily has something of “having to, suffer, fight”. So let's not call it "sacrificing", let's call it "winning". Because with our help, things sometimes work out better or even to some extent.


    As a soldier, I don't see it that way anyway. Not as a paramedic either. My husband is also my comrade. So there are several levels from which I look at this. As a San, I have an obligation to help (and I chose the job because I enjoy doing it). As a comrade, I provide comradely help. As a wife, I said we go through good times and bad times together. He would be there for me just the same. So there's no question that we'll rock it together. Even if it's still really hard sometimes. I'm concentrating on what we've already accomplished and what's going on in good times. And it's nice to read here that you all don't see it as a sacrifice either. I find that very touching. Your men all have great women at their side.

What is ATEK for you?!

    Through ATEK, after 16 years of partnership with a man suffering from severe chronic PTSD, I am finally experiencing ongoing support and help from self-affected people. Here I experience warmth, compassion and, above all, understanding and competent support for my needs and challenges. So far I've only ever been invited to a few events that were good, but lacked the continuity of this group. I also didn't have the offer of a 24-hour emergency group. Thanks to you, I no longer feel so alone. I thank you very much for that.



    The ATEK eV association and the associated self-help group have become very important to me. Even though I was initially hesitant about opening up and asking for help, I'm now just happy to be there and don't want to miss out on the valuable exchange within the group. Not only do you benefit from the broad knowledge and diverse experiences of the members, but you also make friends at the same time. In the end it remains to be said: no one is alone. Together we are strong.






"He chose that himself!"

selected!"

    I have been confronted with this question several times. This was also the case when my father's girlfriend said this to me. I pretty much jumped out of my skin and responded like this:

"And is that the justification for the fact that he now has to bear his fate alone? Is that the answer to the fact that he fought for you so that you can sleep in peace and live your everyday life? And do you also tell your son, Because he's a firefighter, he can see where he's going to stay if he gets hit?

Our emergency services carry out their service with full conviction towards their country and its people. You have respect and recognition

deserved and I share this burden because I would be at his side if he had a stroke."

       

I think it's pure helplessness and ignorance that makes someone think or say something like that. Maybe it's ignorance, but I hope it's helplessness.

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